Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Let's Go Back To The Party Conversation For A Minute

So I'm here for a second post today because I need to clear up a misunderstanding caused by the yesterday's post.

Yesterday I shared with you my latest dose of mommy guilt. I poured my heart out about Addison's birthday and what my mind told me I should do vs what I could actually do in reality.

I compared myself to a bag lady- juggling the tasks of motherhood.

And when I mentioned the posts of parties that I've seen on Facebook and Pinterest, I know it was easy to think that I was condemning those that DO choose to throw parties.

Let me go on record by saying that wasn't my intent at all.

Definitely there is probably a wrong way to throw a party. Definitely there could be a competition to outdo the other in how fabulously we celebrate our children's lives. Definitely there is a fine line to dance between showing off and just throwing an awesome party.

But just because my choice in life right now is to not throw a party doesn't mean I think that someone else couldn't throw a very tasteful, fun celebration of their child's day of birth.

I have two very good examples of well-done parties currently in my life: the two parties we attended last weekend of Addison's friends.

They were tasteful. They were fun. They were child-centered. They were well-planned. I used the word "awesome" but not in an over-the-top way. They were awesome in a simple, wonderful, celebratory way. If I were to throw a party, I would want it to be very similar to these parties. No one was trying to outdo the other. They were just in the moment, having a good time, being thankful for the life that came to be three years ago. There was cake. There were balloons. There were activities that my children adored being a part of.

We were honored to attend these parties and to help celebrate.

The problem with blogging is that I can say one thing and yet one might interpret it differently. You all seemed to understand my heart about the Mommy Guilt part of it, but I let you make some assumptions about my friend's parties that weren't true, and for that I am sorry.

You can throw your child a party. You can not throw your child a party. The point of my post the other day was that party vs no party is not the defining point of whether or not we're good mothers. We all make different decisions according to our current daily life, and the right decision can look different for all of us.

I appreciated all of you who took the time to leave comments. I love comments! But after reading them all last night, I became aware that it was easy to take away something from the post about me judging parties that are the choice by many hard-working mothers. And I didn't mean to say that at all.

Especially when it concerns those who I love and respect very much.

To end on a lighter note, I share with you the lesser-known version of a Dr. Seuss poem which also seems to support birthday parties when the timing is right:

I do Not Like Green Eggs and Ham:
(forget everything you know about the original before you read this)

I do not like green eggs and ham
Except when at a good party
with cake, cake, cake, cake
lots and lots of chocolate cake

I do not like green eggs and ham
Except when wrapped in a package
with bows, bows, bows, bows
lots and lots of beautiful bows

I do not like green eggs and ham
Except when in a goody bag
with stickers, stickers, stickers, stickers
lots and lots of colorful stickers

I do not like green eggs and ham
As stand alone ingredients
Glitter, streamers, good sherbet
Make eggs and ham a good partay

(not sure what ol' Seussy was smoking when he wrote this, but it seems pretty genuine to me...)

1 comment:

  1. this never even crossed my mind!! I hope no one made you feel bad for your post!!


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