Thursday, March 15, 2012

Perhaps you should sue God

Disclaimer: I wrote this on Sunday night and because of the controversial nature of the article decided not to post it. I try to keep reactive writing in the draft folder only. But ever since hitting "Save" I haven't been able to get this post off of my mind, and I haven't been able to post anything else. So here it is:

Dear couple that sued for the wrongful birth of your daughter born with Down syndrome,

I'm not sure how you look into those almond shaped eyes-grasp that warm hand smaller than most-hold close the body vibrating with life

and say

"We wish we could have aborted you".

But since you have, there are a couple of things I would like to say- some things that clearly you haven't already thought through.

Sometimes unexpected things happen to us in life. Bad things that we didn't ask for.
Some of us would call them blessings in disguise-the gifts that we didn't even realize that we needed- while others label MISTAKE and WORTHLESS all over the unexpected.
The truth is, I can see why you're angry. You have a baby that you didn't want. A diagnosis that you feared is now a very real part of your life

without your permission.

Since I have been there myself, I understand the hurt and anger.

But what I don't understand is, why did you sue the DOCTOR?

Didn't you mean to sue GOD?

After all, he's the one who put that baby in your womb. He's the one who allowed a test to come back negative when it should have been positive. He's the one who providentially kept you from ending the life of the baby with the extra chromosome as to not taint your lives.
He's the one who made the MISTAKE in giving your child the wrong number of chromosomes.

He's the one who has FORCED you to endure the smiles, giggles, the JOY of your daughter's life for four wretched years.
So I hear you will have to pay extra money to care for your child.
Wow, that sounds rough.
 But to be honest, that sounds a lot like something called PARENTHOOD.
Earlier this week I wrote a post about motherhood being hard.

It's true.

LIFE IS HARD.

and things happen that we don't want.

BUT THAT IS LIFE,
designed by the same loving God who is willing to help us through the hard times.

So yes, your lawsuit is waiting to be heard by God.

But I must warn you, you're standing in line behind people who lost homes and loved ones in the tornado last week, the young parents who lost their little boy to leukemia last night, the six small children who unexpectedly became orphans because of that drunk driver, the starving in 3rd world countries and everyone who has ever been wronged in life.

But don't worry- I'm sure your case will be heard soon. Having to put up with such a TRAVESTY as a beautiful little girl full of life and spirit is the WORST thing that could possibly happen to a human being.
So yeah, I'm sure you meant to sue God. It only makes sense.

No one should have to suffer like this:
p.s. I heard that FAR in front of you in that line to sue God is a four year old little girl who shares your genetic makeup- her complaint is that she she has to have parents who want her dead. Good luck using your 2.9 million to take the sting out of THAT.

p.s.s. I too have a daughter with the "wrong" number of chromosomes. I would no more sue for her presence in my life than I would sue for being CRUELLY given two arms or a head or....life myself.

edited*A Way To Help
Like peanut butter on the fingers of a curious toddler, this post is begging to be shared.

207 comments:

«Oldest   ‹Older   1 – 200 of 207   Newer›   Newest»
Renee Dall said...

I think that this is a wonderful post. Thank you so much for sharing it!

Not a Perfect Mom said...

perfectly said

Heidi Ehle said...

Amen.

CMSavage6 said...

Your post comes after an intense discussion with my 5th grader last night about the death camps of WW2. She was appalled. The whole thing disturbed her but in her text book it listed some of the types of people that were sent, DS was listed. She looked at her baby sister, looked at me and asked how? I couldn't answer. Some people just don't know how blessed they are. Its sad.

Anonymous said...

I recently became a fan of your blog. I laugh, cry and share joys in your writing. I understand sometimes you may feel like you can't post certain things, but this is your space! Writing is a courageous act because it stays in print yet the readers can still interpret your words any way they want (they are very good at creating certain tone of your voice out of typed texts, aren't they?), but I beg you to keep writing and posting.. I appreciate your honesty!!

grandma smith said...

I didn't think this controversial at all.....just pure honesty!

We are blessed by having you in our lives!

Anonymous said...

The mixture of words and pictures in this post is perfect.
- Molly

lovejoy_31 said...

Good for you! I find it absolutely horrific that someone could actually do this. I don't have a DS child, but I can assure you that only thing I would do differently if I knew prior to birth, is plan accordingly. Each child no matter what gestational age (if one has a miscarriage), is a child of God. There are no mistakes. I know that there is grief that needs to be processed, whether inutero or after birth, but then LOVE YOUR CHILD. No matter what...... Love that you actually posted this.

Vicki J. said...

I agree with every word!

Vicki J. said...

I agree with every word!

Angel said...

Makes me want to jump through my computer and shake your hand.....then hug you.....then cry for that sweet girl whose parents have NO IDEA what an amazing blessing they have received. No idea.

Cassie Channell said...

Oh my goodness! I can't even imagine the type of parents they must be to go on record saying they wish they had aborted! In all honesty, I didn't even have the screening done in my pregnancy. They told me it was optional and what it screened for and I opted out. The baby I was growing was MY BABY, no matter what!! I didn't have a baby born with Downs syndrome but if they had been it would have been just as loved and welcomed

The Stanfields said...

I am so glad you decided to post this! There is no greater blessing in life than a child and ALL children are blessings... no matter how many chromosones they may have! Thank you for sharing this!

Patti said...

I linked on FB. This is a masterpiece.

Shauna said...

ditto what Patti said and I too shared it. Very well done, you saved me the trouble of figuring out how to write about it because I couldn't do it any better.

Kelly Clinger said...

Amen & amen! I have dedicated my life to praying & pleading with Mamas to choose LIFE & to educating as many people as I can that EVERY life is beautiful and is an image-bearer of God. God bless you for exposing your heart so that we might examine OUR hearts!

Annie @ The House That Jade Built said...

Amen!

Linnea said...

LOVE IT! Oh and her laugh! I can not wait to have the joy of a child rockin an extra chromosome. Im so envious! Be blessed

Ashlee

Karly Jaco said...

This whole post is amazing. Thankyou for putting into words my very thoughts!! I have shared it on fb and I'm recommending my friends share it also. If only THIS post would spread like wildfire, just like the lawsuit story...maybe those parents will see it. :) That video at the end is PRICELESS! I want to watch her over and over again!

Being surprised with a diagnosis of Down Syndrome can be a scary shocking thing...I think we've all been there...but it can truly be a blessing. My Ava is so full of Joy...she just brightens our lives! Truly!

Karly Jaco said...

This whole post is amazing. Thankyou for putting into words my very thoughts!! I have shared it on fb and I'm recommending my friends share it also. If only THIS post would spread like wildfire, just like the lawsuit story...maybe those parents will see it. :) That video at the end is PRICELESS! I want to watch her over and over again!

Being surprised with a diagnosis of Down Syndrome can be a scary shocking thing...I think we've all been there...but it can truly be a blessing. My Ava is so full of Joy...she just brightens our lives! Truly!

Shane said...

You know what would be an amazing result to come from their lawsuit...If all hospitals stopped offering the test out of fear of being wrong and getting sued!

Go God!

Beth, Jessica and Jennifer Pyle said...

So thankful the Lord prompted you to post this. Trials draw us closer to God in a way nothing else can. My deepest respect you and my deepest sorrow to that other little girl who will always know she's not treasured.

Heather said...

That is one stinkin' cute kid! LOL Thank you for posting this!!! God bless you and yours! :)

Jenn said...

Perfectly worded. :) I loved the video, She makes me laugh. :)

I heard of the story yesterday and was confused.. if she was SO unwanted and such a burden, why didn't they just put her up for adoption? Oh yeah.. if they did that they couldn't get paid. Sick Sick people out there. I truely feel bad for that little girl.. and I hope somehow she never knows about the case, the reasons why.. but I imagine that's asking to much. some people shouldn't have children.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful. And the video of Addison laughing had me cracking up.

Trista said...

I'm GLAD you posted this, Deanna! I just wish whoever that family is could see themselves the way the rest of us see them!

Sarah said...

So glad that you hit "Publish" because this needed to be said. I love the part about the little girl, herself, being in line to "sue" God, for her good for nothing parents. Honestly, people never cease to slay me with their ignorance!

Jessica said...

What an incredible post! Thank you. I went and read the article and couldn't believe the extremely high percentage of people that would end the pregnancy. "According to several studies, 89 percent or more of expectant mothers who learned their children would have Down syndrome chose to terminate the pregnancies."

So sad.

Shannon said...

tossing out what ever lame thing I was writing... Deanna, you said it PERFECTLY!

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful little girl!

Erica said...

I've just recently started (trolling) following your blog upon receiving the news that our soon-to-be-born son has DS. While I've been impressed, moved, blessed, thrilled, and hopeful upon reading each post - I never commented. Today, I couldn't help it! This post is BRILLIANT and I am SO happy that you shared this! THANK YOU! It was perfectly and beautifully worded!

Jenny said...

Deanna!! I cannot believe you thought of NOT posting this!! This post is fabulous! One of my all time favorites by you! This was beautiful...I loved it!!!

Pam said...

Thank you so much for sharing this post. Wonderfully said!! Love, love the video.....it made my day!

shayneswife said...

Now I had to subscribe! I couldn't have said it better! These people need to get their heads checked!

Elizabeth said...

Amen! And what a little cutie you have!

barronfamilyus said...

I've only recently started following your blog, but I must let you know how much I loved this post. I am absolutely horrified at this case and the fact that it's not the first of it's kind. The excuse that they have the extra cost of medical bills is ridiculous! Children are born all the time with serious medical conditions that have nothing to do with genetics. My son was born with CHD that he's had surgery for and the potential for more. It's very hard. Should I have sued because I was not offered a fetal echo to let me know in advance? (Because who wants a child that's not easy right?) Uh, no. Thanks. I love my child and this experience has taught me so much.

Preaching to the choir, I know ;) But this case really gets under my skin. They don't deserve such a blessing.

Anyway, awesome post!

Lisa said...

Once again you took the words right out of my mind if not my mouth because I'm sure I couldn't have said them with as much class as you did. You are awesome!

Anonymous said...

A wonderful and well said posting. Thank you for sharing this. The news story on this couple made be very upset and sad. I hope this gets out to them.

Anonymous said...

LOVE this -- THANK YOU for posting, I'm so glad you did. :)
Blessings to you and your family,
Lisa

Cathy said...

I'm glad you hit "publish". Very well said!

Wren said...

This is perfect in so many ways - thank you for deciding to publish it!

The Holt's said...

Loved this! Well said.

kkan5g said...

Thank you....This is so touching. Thank you for publishing.

Susan Hill said...

Well said. And I agree. In our house, autism has taught me more than an easy life could ever have. And I wouldn't trade what I've learned for anything. Our kids are perfect...just as they are.

Nikki said...

Great post Deanna. So glad you hit publish.

Karen said...

I just have to say that I love this post and your daughter as absolutely beautiful.

melissa carswell said...

THANK. YOU. Well written!!!! And your miracle is BEAUITFUL!!!!

Ria said...

well-written! I hope this gets to them.

teresa said...

we are not related but i wish to echo "grandma smith's" words. we are blessed to have you(r family) in our lives. thanks for sharing this important post.

Erinn said...

WOW! I loved reading your post. I lost my son, Moses (which means created for special purposes) who had Downs, at 1 month old. His heart condition was too much for his 28 week - 4 lb body to handle. Every time I see a child with Downs it makes me smile. I feel a special kinship to these blessings. My son's twin brother also has an uncanny connection with a boy who has Downs at our church. So to hear about these parents put me in tears. Your response is priceless and well said. Your daughter is ADORABLE! I loved the video of her laughter. Truly she is a MIRACLE!

M. Brown said...

Love this!

Lexi said...

Wow, Deana, simply. WOW. I had goosebumps through this whole thing. You hit the nail on the head so many times. The things that I've wanted to SCREAM at those parents and ALL of the parents who have sued over "wrongful birth". I wish they were the first and only. But the sad truth is they are not. And they are not the last.

ch said...

love, love the p.s.

Anonymous said...

I'm so glad you DID post this! I don't have a DS child but what these parents that sued don't realize is that any non- downs child could have other problems as well like diabetes, autism, emotional problems, other physical problems. I think they were looking for a scape goat. I was asked if I wanted testing with each of my children and I said no, yes I was scared of the possiblities but I knew I would love each child no matter what. Your daughter is beautiful btw!

Maria said...

We have had a similar case here in Spain.
People want to have total control over their lives and " perfect" children. They don't know that those supposedly perfect children with 23 pairs of chromosomes can be more miserable and make them more unhappy than other ones with DS or any illness.
Besides, as a biochemist, I know that we don't have a full knowledge and control over Genetics. I'd rather trust God; in His perfect knowledge He will send us the perfect baby for each one.
Tons of kisses for those 2 cuties you have at home :-); love their pics

Becky said...

I want to say what every one else has said already...brilliant post and so glad you did put it out there. This was perfect.

Sarah said...

Well said. And good for you, for hitting publish.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for saying this!! Had this conversation in our small group. We all thought the same thing...poor little girl who has parents that wanted her dead!

Unknown said...

Everyone else has said what I wanted to say. I just wanted to add, thank you for sharing pictures of your gorgeous daughter. She brought a huge smile to my face. You are surely blessed to have so so much joy your your life.

Anonymous said...

It's all been said in these comments, but I wanted to add how touched I was by this and how glad I am you posted this. Wonderful message! (and you showed great restraint; I would have called those "parents" something a whole lot nastier).

Josel said...

Thank you for writing this. I felt the same way when I read the story. I do not have a child with DS but I have a son with autism. I cannot imagine my life without any one of my children. Each of them have blessed me beyond description. They have made me a better person. I recently read a story about 'after-birth abortions' (of course, they don't want to call it what it is - infanticide because they do not believe it is murder). So next they will want to kill children born with disabilities or any other thing they don't 'like'. Soon they will want to justify killing older children who develop disabilities like autism. I am sickened by the self-centeredness and complete lack of awe for life that seems to be growing. Children are a blessing. What we ought to be doing is getting down on our knees every day thanking them for the air we breathe and overflowing with thankfulness that He even chose to bless us with children. I know I don't deserve any of it.

Theresa Dagostino Forge said...

Beautifully written, you express my- and many many others, sentiments exactly. Thank you from the mother of a dearly loved, extra chromosone daughter. Wonder if these people even believe in God???

gail said...

Amen. Please don't ever hesitate publishing a post like this.

Grandma Sanford said...

Our lives will never be the same...because of Addison. I thank God for the blessing she is to our whole family!

The Kerr Family said...

This is the first blog of yours that I have read and I must say, I like you already. ;) I clicked on it from a friend who "shared" you on Facebook. I'll be around. Thank you for putting your thoughts out because it is what most of us are thinking.

Anonymous said...

A friend posted this on Facebook. Addison is absolutely beautiful! My nephew is my hero. A developmentally delayed adult, he turned 23 this year and I have learned more from life with him, than anyone could have ever taught me.

Andrew and Esther said...

"He's the one who providentially kept you from ending the life of the baby with the extra chromosome as to not taint your lives." - I like the use of the word "taint". Pretty sure the tainting happened when they decided to sue. And that was their own stupid fault.

Anonymous said...

You said it perfectly! I couldn't agree more! Thanks for sharing Addison with us, you can't help but laugh when she laughs! =)~Lis

Kennisha Hill said...

Brought a tear to my eyes. Beautifully written. And beautiful daughter!!! xoxo

Natasha said...

True that! Except I'm not religious and don't think they should sue God. They should sue themselves (impossible and stupid I know) but THEY were the ones who wanted to get pregnant and have a baby, it was their genes and chance (i.m.o.) that made their daughter. I was so surprised and appalled to learn of these "wrongful birth" suits. Also, I couldn't believe how one sided the jury was, and how little time they needed to come to a verdict. just sad.

Rachel Douglas said...

First and foremost, your daughter is so gorgeous. You got good genes Mama! Second, I loved your words! Thanks for representing! You can check out my post if you want. I recently started a blog and getting my feet wet so to speak. Wordshurtorheal.blogspot.com

Aurora Flores said...

I completely agree. Perfectly said.

Kay said...

I was so distressed when I first heard about this story on the news as it really shows the level of depravity our narcissistic culture has sunk to.

Your response is so awesomely beautiful and appropriate. I'm so glad you shared it and I feel blessed to read it. Your daughter is precious. God bless.

jdt_1583 said...

Beautifully said. Love this post!

Jennifer said...

Of all the responses I have heard about this case, I think this is the best one.
Jennifer x

Meghan said...

Beautiful.

Marla said...

Thank you so much for your words. My heart has been aching every since I heard about this couple. My son was not diagnosed with Down Syndrome prior to his birth and I did not find out until they decided to do the genetic testing at a week old. I would change absolutely nothing. I feel as God has blessed me. He has allowed me to take care of one of His angels here on earth and yes I believe all of those with Downs are God's angels on earth trying to teach us about His unconditional love. Freddie has been such a blessing to us and his twin sister (without downs) that we have decided to adopt a little boy with Down Syndrome from Bulgaria and if that couple really does not want their daughter then we will take her too. No strings attached. They can keep there 3 Mil. ~Marla from Alabama

Marla said...

Thank you so much for your words. My heart has been aching every since I heard about this couple. My son was not diagnosed with Down Syndrome prior to his birth and I did not find out until they decided to do the genetic testing at a week old. I would change absolutely nothing. I feel as God has blessed me. He has allowed me to take care of one of His angels here on earth and yes I believe all of those with Downs are God's angels on earth trying to teach us about His unconditional love. Freddie has been such a blessing to us and his twin sister (without downs) that we have decided to adopt a little boy with Down Syndrome from Bulgaria and if that couple really does not want their daughter then we will take her too. No strings attached. They can keep there 3 Mil. ~Marla from Alabama

Misty said...

Beautiful daughter. Beautiful post.

Gert Slabach said...

Well. Well said. Well lived. Well written. Well done.

~Amy~ said...

Thank you for posting this. Amen.

Anna Theurer said...

Deanna, I thought I commented already, but apparently I just posted your blog to FB. I cannot believe you almost were not going to post this. You have a gift with words and you have beautifully said my thoughts and feelings on this horrible matter. Addison is darling (and Carter too) and her sweet face and precious laugh adds power to your words. Keep writing, blogging friend.

Anonymous said...

My heart is so full from seeing your beautiful blog.....my child, Ronnie (has Down Syndrome), is soon to turn 20....he is 13th of 14 children---he is the greatest joy, the greatest blessing to our family.

Ann said...

I'm with you. When I figure out how, I'll share this well written blog.

Olga said...

Oh Deanna!!! This post is so passionate and touching...

Jodi Gallagher said...

Beautiful! Thanks for sharing! xoxo

Amanda said...

I've never been to your blog before and just wanted to add the comment that I LOVE the pictures of your daughter, the pure joy and happiness on her face is incredible and I can't help but smile and laugh as I listen to her laughing too, it is infectious. Isn't children's laughter the most beautiful thing in the world to hear? Thanks so much for brightening my day!

katalinakate said...

Thank you for posting this. I couldn't agree with you more!

Judye Nazareth said...

What an amazing post! You brought tears to my eyes. I was reading this at work and everyone around was in AWE of your daughter's beauty.

As a mother to a daughter with autism and mother to an angel who died from a birth defect, this case has hurt my heart terribly.

The pictures that you shared today made me smile and warmed that heart.

Not Your Average Catholic Mom said...

I love this, thank you.

Anonymous said...

You don't know me but we have a 6 year old DS grandson. His mother put him up for adoption and when he was born, the couple backed out because he was DS. Our son and his wife adopted him and named him Cavan Chance. Cavan is Irish for handsome and he was given another Chance for a family. He is a doll and we love him so much. Thanks for your blog.

Victoria said...

Incredibly powerful post... Incredibly TRUTHFUL. Perfectly said, thank you for deciding to click Publish!

The Halbert Home said...

A friend posted your blog on facebook. I appreciate your post and your speaking out! There's another blog you might be interested in: Enjoying the Small Things at www.kellehampton.com. She found out her daughter had Down Syndrome when she was born. It's a very inspiring blog.

Fran said...

well said, I totallyy agree with you, I have the most lovely grandaughter who has Down syndrome, I feel blessed to have such a wonderful girl gifted to us, I never knew such joy exsisted until my little poppy was born, every little milestone makes me so proud.I love my little grandaughter so much and would not change anything about my precious girl. Like all (well 99.9%)of families with children with DS, life will have challenges but no more than children without that extra chromosone, just different. Keep up the good work.

biblechick1025 said...

i loved your post. i have spina bibifida and my parents were told i would never walk or amount to anything. At 32 years of age(this week) I am a happilly married wife and mom of a awsome 2 year old little boy that i chase around from the time i get up till he goes to bed at night:-)

Anonymous said...

Thank you.

Anonymous said...

Great post. I hope the parents actually read this.

Frugalista Mama said...

Powerful and amazing. Thank you.

Frugalista Mama said...

Also, love the pic of Addison in the red hat. Soooo cute!

Anonymous said...

I GUESS PEOPLE WILL START SUEING IF THEIR KIDS DON`T TURN OUT TO BE A GREAT ATHLETE OR DOCTOR NEXT!

Mrs. Parunak said...

AMEN!!! This whole thing just has me heartbroken for the state of our society.

Aunt B said...

I have worked as a caregiver for children with physical disabilities and a child who has both Down Syndrome and physical challenges. I started taking care of one of my "kids" when she was 13 months old and was holding her hand when she passed away at the age of 29. She was like a child of my own. I felt that my heart was being torn from within me. What can I tell you about the challenged kids in my life? That without exception that have brought to their challenges a capacity for love and joy that has enriched the lives of everyone around them. I am blessed to have known these kids and to have had them welcome me into their hearts. I'm sad to hear that this child's parents feel the way that they do, but at least they're honest enough to admit it. That's the first step in seeking out caregivers who will bring the love and hope that they can't provide into their child's life.

The Morris Family said...

Good for you! Those people don't even deserve that beautiful gift of a precious child. There are many who would be happy to love that sweet baby as she deserves to be loved and adored.
Your daughter is BEAUTIFUL and so obviously full of joy!!

nikkiboop76 said...

Bravo! I so agree with every word . Your daughter is absolutely beautiful. God bless you and your family.

nikkiboop76 said...

Bravo! I so agree with every word . Your daughter is absolutely beautiful. God bless you and your family.

FishMama said...

Love your wisdom, Deanna. I know it was hard earned, but it's a blessing, my friend.

Lee Ann said...

So blessed by this post. Props. Love it. Gorgeous baby girl. Way to be a GREAT mom!

maddison jacobs said...

omg thank youso much for writing this as i read this and saw the beautiful child that was being talked about all i could do was cry .these parents do not know what a special gift they have so she isnt perfect but in a way she is she is what god wanted her to be and she will only get better if given the chance to grow , there are couples out there who would love to be parents to this little girl they wouldnt care id she had ds or not because they cant have their own child so theyd have to adopt this little girl is so beautiful i do not understand how they coudl not love her noone or nothing is perfect i want to know what theyd do if they did have the perfect child and she got sick with a real bad diease like cancer then what would they do give up on her then ? i pray that they discover what a treasure they have n grow to love her and that she is treated great n not hurt . thanks again for writing this sharing it

Shana said...

Kudos to you for ha ing the guts to write and post this. I hope they see it. Your daughter is beautiful, and a very lucky little girl to have been born to you!

His Hands His Feet Today said...

Beautiful!
I wrote a similar post a few days ago. The more we speak out on what TREASURES these children are ... the more value will be placed on their lives by a heartless society!

http://hishandshisfeettoday.blogspot.com/2012/03/dear-oregon-family-judge-and-jury.html

Kathy said...

So very well said. Thank you.

Sarah W. said...

Brought tears to my eyes. I agree this was very well said. I love reading your posts!

Katie said...

Found your post through Reece's Rainbow - thank you so much for posting it. I think I get so angry when I hear about things like this that my brain boils (explains the steam coming out my ears) and I can't come up with anything coherent to say - but you said it perfectly. I'm 23 and currently child-free (except for a gaggle that parade in and out of my house every week... daycare kids, friends' kids, Dear Borrowed Kids...) but I personally plan to adopt and I can't wait to add a few "extra" chromosomes to my family. My heart breaks more than anything for this child. I hope someone in her life shows her that she is valued.

JEllen said...

Very well said.

jen said...

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I have posted this story twice on FB to voice my disgust. You said it all beautifully and perfectly. Thank you!!!

Anonymous said...

Amen. Perfectly said and tears of joy are now running down my face, mixed with tears of pain for the little girl to deal with being unwanted by those who should be blessed by her presence. Job well done, indeed.

Shelly K said...

So thankful you did post this blog. You said it all perfectly. God bless you and your sweet little family.

Anonymous said...

ALWAYS BLAMING GOD WHEN SOME THINGS WRONG,OPEN A BIBLE,GET IT RIGHT ALL I SEE IS BLESSED BABY'S AND CHILDREN,OF COURSE WE NEVER SEE THE BLESSINGS OR MIRACLES THAT HAPPEN EVERY DAY,HAVE TO BELIEVE AND HAVE FAITH NO ONE SAID IT WOULD BE EASY.LIVE LIFE TO ITS FULLEST BE RIGHT WITH THE LORD,HAVE HIM TRULY IN YOUR HEART YOU WILL GET THROUGH.YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO IT ALONE.

Anonymous said...

OK JUST POSTED ABOVE, THE NUMBER IS MY EMPLOYEE NUMBER 118.STRANGE OR IS IT!?

Christina Robinson said...

Thank you for writing from your heart. I couldn't agree more with you. I had to bury my sweet baby who didn't have the right number of chromosomes and another rare condition in her brain. I would give anything to be 'burdened' with raising her!

Anonymous said...

I applaud you for standing up to someone who does not want a child they are yet to understand the blessing of. I loved your post! Thanks for sharing!

cocorricco said...

First of all, your daughter is SOOOOO STINKING CUTE!!!!! I love how happy she is in those pictures. LOVE IT!!!!! I have a dear friend who was BLESSED with a DS child. The sweetest thing ever! She has 3 others, they do not have DS and love their brother like the love each other. I think they are so much more full of life. Yes, they deal with so much more from people, but they are always smiling and wanting to hug all over you. When I was in elementary school (im 34 now) I volunteered at a school next to my school. It was a special education school. I remember my first time in there I felt sooo sad, but then saw how happy they were. I was blessed to be able to work with them, specially a girl by the name of Sam. Yes, I remember her name after 23 years. I even got to be her cheerleader at the specialy olympics. I will ALWAYS remember that. 20 years ago my pregnant Aunt was told her was going to have a DS baby and the DOCTOR told her to abort. My Aunt and Uncle, without missing a beat, said NO! If God wants them to have a DS baby, He has a purpose. a couple months later a healthy baby was born. No DS. If that family was so mad, why didnt they just give the baby up for adoption? I also think the judge was a moron. For letting them win. I mean, honestly

cocorricco said...

PS...the picture of your daughter at the very start of your blog on the far right. lol!!!! BEST.FACE.EVER!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

YES!!

c8cd44ca-6981-11e1-afda-000bcdcb471e said...

What a touching article. Thank you so much for posting it. I LOVE the video of your daughter. So beautiful! It's so disheartening that a blessing would not be considered that by the parents. My son autistic, not only is he my little hero, he's my teacher, and many other things.

Nancy Adams said...

A Great Post!!!

sasicas said...

AMEN!

LeAnn said...

Amen and Amen. Maybe that sweet precious baby needs to have someone step in and sue the so call parents.

Anonymous said...

ok I am going to get in trouble here....but.....from what I have read in several articles about the family you are referring to, I never gathered that they do not love this child. I also don't think this is about money as much as it is about our faith, for lack of a better word, in medicine. There are lawsuits all of the time dealing with the same type of mistakes. This hits an emotional cord because it is about a child. If you have ever had a child or other family member suffer needlessly or die due to a medical misdiagnosis then you would understand. They sued to make a point about a medical system we all rely on.

Anonymous said...

They sued because they did not get the perfect baby they wanted bottom line.
Thank you Deanna for your post it was very well thought out! I have a little girl with DS I remember how angry I felt when she was born. but now I am so glad that God gave her to us. she is truly our little angel here on earth.

Amy @ Heritage Homemaker said...

Fantastic post!!!! I have a son with autism...not exactly the same as Down Syndrome....but I know that God entrusted me with this wonderful *special* child because he wanted me to have him and knew that I was capable of raising and nurturing and taking care of him.

Riopelle Brood said...

Thank you for your post. I was so saddened by the news of that couple's lawsuit and you put what I was thinking. God bless you!

Anonymous said...
This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.
Ashley said...

The pictures of your daughter made me cry. What a beautiful little soul! You are so lucky to have her. <3
I always wondered "what if" I had a child with a disability but seeing the pictures of your daughter lets me know that children with disabilities can be just as happy and wonderful as those without. I already have two little girls and am not having anymore but your story really touched me. Thank you.

Another Texas Family said...

You hit this one out of the ballpark. Fantastic job!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this post! I too understand and I look at it a little differently then they did...you see I am anger that the doctors did tell me that something could be wrong with my child. I am angry that they could doubt in my mind that stayed with me the whole pregnancy and replaced my Joy with FEAR! I didn't need them to try to be God...I have a God, One that I trust with EVERYTHING including my late age and my baby given in my old age. And I still trust Him when dealing with his special needs! I would never have had the doubts if these "doctors" who believe themselves to be above our God had planted a seed and readily watered it with tests to perform and age related studies etc and options of abortions....into my heart! Thankful for My Gift!

Anonymous said...

This likely isn't a popular opinion... But these people aren't sueing over their daughters life. They are sueing because their legal right to decide what to do was denied based on false information from the doctors. They now have a child that I am sure they adore and the chance to make sure this child is taken care of financially for the rest of his or her life. To not peruse this would be negligent to the child's well being going forward. You don't have to like what someone else does but regardless of your opinions you are not in a place to judge these people or anyone else for that matter.

Patti said...

"To not peruse this would be negligent to the child's well being going forward.

I live in the same state as this couple, and am raising a daughter with Down syndrome as well. I know exactly what is available to that couple as far as medicaid, SSI, and therapy (free!). Don't tell me it costs three million dollars to raise that child- that amount is proof of what was at the heart of this lawsuit.

Anonymous said...

Hi, This is the first time I've visited your blog. I stumbled across a link to this post on Pinterest. I grew up with a sister who has special needs. I am also an occupational therapy student and pediatric OT is my passion. I think your post is well written and I want to thank you for sharing it. It reminds me of the story "Welcome to Holland." If you haven't heard this story already, here is a link: http://www.our-kids.org/Archives/Holland.html
Thanks again for your post and this blog. You're an inspiration.

Nancypantsgirl said...

Thank you for your heartfelt and poignant response. You are right... Every word.

Anonymous said...

Did you know the child had DS before the adoption? Just curious... Either way it's an awe inspiring testament to really knowing what love and adoption is... It's giving a life to life that was given to you... Sounds like this kid scored big time with you and yours. Be blessed and enjoy that baby. To the OP very momma bear protective words indeed and also a lovely read! So nice to hear that there are grateful parents both upcoming and right now. Makes me proud to be a parent rock on sisters!! <3 love and blessings to you both

Anonymous said...

I have a daughter with Down Syndrome, she is beautiful, sweet and enough love in her for everyone on earth. She is 22 years old now and not a day goes by that i'm grateful for god giving me such an angel plus she teaches me something everyday and that is how to have a good and loving heart. Of course i will never be as good at that as my daughter. I hope that couple will realize one day just how blessed they are.

Anonymous said...

that i'm not grateful for*

Margaret Meandering said...

Dear Deanna, I feel utterly connected to your post and your feelings. I was never blessed with the role of mother but I was blessed to work with many people with disabilities and their families. The pain and distress is real and sometimes relentless. It is not a painless experience, much work and struggle is involved but, as you said, that is life. The Lord blesses us with struggles and works them for His glory and our good. There are indeed many joys and glorious opportunities to both give and receive love when caring for a child with disabilities. Your post tells the truth about the joy of commitment to raising such a child. I hope that the family in question feels these joys. Long ago, I worked with a group of young boys with Down's Syndrome who had been given up at birth. Back then, when a child was born with disabilities doctors generally recommended immediate institutionalization so that "experts" could provide the best services to the child. These boys were raised in an institution and could have been expected to live lives of misery and want, to grow up without any understanding or experience of family life. You might expect them to be withdrawn, emotionally stilted, etc. In God's kind providence that's not what happened. It wasn't just severely disabled children who were institutionalized but almost anyone with almost any kind of disability. So, within the institution there were girls and women who were considered "mildly retarded." These women were used in the "nursery" to help with the babies who had "Down's Syndrome." Apparently, they didn't think of these babies in terms of disability but saw them as dear little babies whom they could shower with love and attention. I met these boys when they were pre-teen and found them to be delightful, endearing and functioning as a "band of brothers." They had grown up together had a broad variety of personalities, strengths, weaknesses, etc. They all had Down's Syndrome and shared some of the physical characteristics but they didn't all look alike. I noticed that those who had family visitors resembled their families more than each other. They were generally cheerful, playful, and a joy to teach. None of them were "angels from heaven," they were boys with real humanity. I loved them and felt deeply blessed to know them. One boy in particular was particularly delightful. He was quiet and artistic with a an engaging sense of humor and a warm smile. Everyone loved him once they got to know him at all. The sad irony was that his parents never visited him and never knew him. Apparently, they were so traumatized by having had a child with a disability that they never came to terms with it and lost the opportunity to know him. This boy grew to manhood in a place where he didn't know that it was "normal" to have parents. He never seemed to feel the lack. He was loved and affirmed by so many others and had a "family" of brothers and care-givers around him at all times. I learned that his parents had died without knowing all this and without even telling their other child that he existed. It always grieved me to imagine the needless pain that they suffered when they could have had the joy of knowing what a wonderful person their son was and of sharing in the happiness that he both experienced and gave to others.

Anonymous said...

I applaud and support you, good job. While I cannot personally understand the challenges/rewards of raising a child with DS, I can attest to my own child. Not a day goes by I miss my second lovely daughter, but God holds her near Him and I was blessed with the time He allowed her to be a part of my family. Yep, get in line, we all got life.

Michelle said...

So very well said!

wayne said...

Fortunately you didn't keep this filed away....hopefully the people this was directed to get to see it...

FlapJack said...

Kudos to you for posting such brave words. It takes a passionate person with a bold voice to stand against those who are destroying this world with their selfishness and sense of entitlement. You have an incredible blessing in your life...and these others...they just don't understand what they have...and they probably never will. I feel sorry for them, really. They'll never truly understand the beauty of this world. Their loss...

His Girl said...

So glad you didn't keep this in Draft mode! What an encouraging post!

LubbyGirl said...

This made me cry. My foster nephew had Downs, and he was one of the sweetest, kindest, happiest kids I ever knew. He called my foster mother (his grandma) Lint Ball, because her hair was curly, white, and puffy (beautiful!!). I remember him patting her on the head when he called her Lint Ball (one of the few things he said that I could understand), and the glow she would get on her face from that. Such good memories. Thank you for sharing this.

Anonymous said...

part of your post..."Sometimes unexpected things happen to us in life. Bad things that we didn't ask for."...really hit home with me. yes, I've experienced the grief and anger stages that you go through. the who? me? why? however, you have to get over the grief, the looking back and the pity party...because your child needs you and like you said you'll miss out on enjoying the smiles, giggles and joy. thanks for a wonderful post.

Paula said...

A very beautiful and well-written post. I am so happy God gave you that little girl as it cannot be more evident that you love her with all your heart. I cannot judge the other couple who are suing the doctors but I will pray that they will find the strength and wisdom that you have found. I just hope that my own children will know how much I love them as I know your daughter will.

Adrienne @ Whole New Mom said...

Thank you. As the mother of an autistic child who has been very needy recently, I really needed to read this. Sharing it with my readers. Blessings!

Maegan said...

Wow. After the first 40 or so "attaboys" I had to skip down to comment. Who are YOU to say what SOMEONE ELSE can handle? They wanted the test, they knew they could potentially have a child with a chromosomal defect. The TEST was botched. They knew if they had a child with DS, then they could not have handled it financially (possibly emotionally?). Adoption is possibly an even more difficult choice than abortion - b/c you have months to bond with your baby in utero...and then give it up...in hopes that someone else will care for it. And even a quick google will tell you that adopting children with special needs has it's own issues - people aren't falling all over themselves to take home a child with special needs!

This child will need to be cared for forever. When mom & dad are gone - who cares for this now-adult that has physical health problems that will not be resolved until their death? Are her brothers supposed to take on that responsibility?

I understand your view may be very different...but that money can be used to care for that child for life. I don't think her parents are just after the money. They realize how much care she may need & that one day they will not be there to give it...so someone else will have to.

I know I seem to be the 1 dissenting commenter here...and I almost didn't want to post. I just felt like...they were within their rights to WANT to abort (it's not illegal, regardless of personal feelings about this issue - they are allowed under the law to terminate a pregnancy for any reason) if their fetus had chromosomal or other defects. Their test was done wrong. The facts are, yes...that is malpractice. If you were told you had a tumor, then had it tested & was told, "Don't worry, it's benign, we can leave it right there..." And you later found out someone misread their test or misplaced their slide & it turns out the tumor was actually cancerous...wouldn't you call that malpractice? This is no different.

The suing couple is not saying they do not love their daughter. They are saying, with proper testing, they would have had an abortion. God didn't mess up the test. A technician did.

chambanachik said...

Deanna, once again, you amaze me. What a wonderful post. I couldn't agree more.

Anonymous said...

As someone who considers herself a vehemently pro-choice atheist, I'd like you to know that this post resounds even among people who might be assumed to be judging it. I stand by my belief that it is not up to me to determine whether another person is capable of child-bearing or child-rearing. However, the idea that a doctor could be sued in this instance is reprehensible, and I detest what this says about the child. This dehumanizes people with special needs in ways that I would hope we would finally be evolving beyond, and puts far too much faith in the medical profession to decide what is normal and what isn't. Can't we leave ANYTHING up to chance? (Or, I suppose, God, as most posting here would say...)

Deanna--thanks for taking a stand here. It's worth hearing, regardless of one's political or religious affiliations.

Danielle said...

Thank you so much for sharing!!! I hadn't even heard about the case, then someone posted your post on FB. I am so dumbfounded and sad. But blessed by your post and pictures!

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much Deanna. I have a now-19 year old cousin with DS, and he is much loved by his family and friends. God put him here, and we are thankful for his precious life. All life is a gift from God!

Anonymous said...

Matthew 7:1-5. “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.

None of you know whether or not this child is loved by her parents. Doctors make mistakes that cost people their loves every day. Children are born with problems that could have been prevented if not for the mistakes made. Are those parents not allowed to sue? We are very high and mighty from our perches.

Anonymous said...

Adorable!!!! You go random lady I dont know!

Anonymous said...

This is so precious I cant believe some parents can see what a blessing Angel there child is God bless you and thanks for sharing this

bluecottonmemory said...

So glad you posted - what a powerfully beautiful post - and what a beautiful little girl:)

Expat Mom said...

When I was pregnant with my last son, a friend of mine told me I should get an ultrasound done at a certain time so I could see if the baby had DS and abort while I was on vacation in Canada (we live in Guatemala, where abortion is illegal). I was stunned. First, I hadn't even considered getting tested and second, it doesn't matter, I wouldn't choose that for any of my children. My oldest son was born with a birth defect that some people would abort over. We were surprised to find out at birth and it was a stressful beginning to his life, but he's a great, sweet and funny kid now who just happens to have multiple surgeries under his belt and a lot of intestinal issues to deal with on a daily basis. I understand that some people don't want to deal with imperfect kids, but they are just as much a gift as any other child.

Hippie4ever said...

This is to the parents who were inconvenienced by a down syndrome child.
I'm a doctor who puts his entire mind, body, and soul everyday into taking care of patients, without the remote thought of TRYING to intentionally harm someone.
You were given a blessing but have decided to send it with the weekly trash service because it doesn't suit your view of live.
It seems your doctor went out of his or her way to deceive you and play the dirtiest trick so you can suffer with a precious gift of a baby girl. Why don't you sue me for writing this post? Why don't you sue God Himself? He was the one who gave you a child who only knows to love you. I'm sure you will win in our fair and life loving justice system.

One thing I ask of you, however, will you split the winnings with me because I have medical school loans to pay off and I still haven't seen my bailout check from the Obama administration.

Jessica said...

Wow. Amen - so glad to have read this!

D Benoit said...

Wonderfully said! God doesn't make mistakes!

Helen said...

Granted, we cannot judge other people's motives, but we are allowed to evaluate their actions. This same passage includes a statement that we will know false prophets by their fruits.

In this case, we have the actions of the parents: First, almost desperate action is taken to MAKE SURE they do not have an imperfect child. Second: The arrival of a child with Down syndrome. Third: A lawsuit against the hospital system because their daughter was born "wrongfully." They state that they love their child, but if they had known she had had DS, they would have aborted her.

What kind of love is that? We love her now, but we are still so annoyed that she's here and is going to cost us extra time and money, we're suing you for her upkeep. That action does not show love. It shows selfishness, and hardness of heart. These parents are more to be pitied then censored.

I'd like to know how they determined that $2.9 million is what it's going to cost to take care of this little girl. (Of course, the lawyers are going to take their cut of this, so the parents are not going to get the whole amount.) Several years ago, someone determined the cost for keeping a child with special needs and it was in the thousands, not millions. As was pointed out above, this child will be eligible for many government services, some of which are determined by the parents' income level. But in such cases, the parents can pay into the system to receive the benefit.

I'm also wondering how many PARENTS of children with DS testified in this case. Oh, the EXPERTS say their daughter won't do this or that. That's crazy. Nobody can tell you how far a kid with DS will go when the child is only 4. At 4, my daughter wasn't even walking. But today, at 12, she walks (a little oddly), she talks (and is usually understood), she can do double- and triple-digit addition, with carrying. She can read. Our goal for her is independence. It's a reasonable goal.

According to the hospital, the CVS procedure was done correctly, and the reason it came back normal is because the child has MOSAIC DS. If that is true, these parents have very little to worry about. Mosaic DS is a walk in the park compared to typical DS. Normal function and a normal life are well within the grasp of children with Mosaic DS.

The thing that bothers me most about this is the "wrongful birth." Was is really wrong for this child to be born? God gives life. It is not up to man to take it. Some day, this little girl will understand her disability, and she will likely be able to read, and then she'll find out about this case. How will her parents respond when she says, "Why didn't you want me to be born?"?

On another note--be careful how you toss out the "89 percent" statistic. It applies to those who get a DEFINITIVE prenatal diagnosis of DS, and right now only about 2 percent of parents do the invasive testing required. With the release of the new non-invasive test for DS, which is supposedly better than 95 percent accurage, we can expect that 89 percent statistic to become true. However, as it stands now, according to the most recent figures, DS is actually MORE common--it's now 1 in every 691 births, not 1 in every 700.

Deanna, we've not met through the internet yet, but your mom knows my son in Milwaukee. (Small world.)

Becca said...

Woo hoo!!!! You're awesome, Deanna. Those parents suck. That's all.

Asta Lander said...

That laugh says it all. God bless you. A x

Ronna said...

Thank YOU! What an eloquent and kind response. Our 17 year-old "mistake" is the best gift I've ever received! He is our life, and the heart of our family!

Anonymous said...

It's OK to be angry with those parents. But many of you have also said that "god" doesn't make mistakes. And that "god" has a path for everyone. Or that "god" blessed this, that, or the other. Well, clearly, "god" wanted them to have that child, and sue, and win, so that you could all feel better about being angry.

Live, and let live. Love, and let love.

Steph W. said...

I totally agree with everyone else... beautiful post. You said everything perfectly. What Helen said was so true! What kind of love is it if you say you love your daughter, yet you would have aborted her if you would have known? How rediculous! :( I know many children with DS and they are all beautiful, and very smart. They are different, sure, but we all are! That's what makes us all "our own".
Thanks for the great post!

Steph

Anonymous said...

Your heart is shared with many, including mine. I pray that some how, some way, these parents can move past the qrief, the anger, and the resentment they must be feeling. That they can find healing, not through this lawsuit but through the arms of Grace. Then they may be able to let go and love their daughter. I almost hope they win, then they will see that even money won't fix their problem, that it goes much deeper and only one thing will help - Jesus. But then again, winning may only serve to open up the floodgates for more abortions.

Stefanie said...

Thank you for not keeping this in you draft folder! Addison is adorable:) My sister has down syndrome and is such a blessing to our family!

Anonymous said...

I have not heard about this story in the media, just read your blog through my facebook friend. I very exceptionally sad that the people you are talking about have not found it within themselves to love unconditionally and realise the strength they need to find within themselves to love and deal with the hurdles they, as with any parent in the world, will come up against. It is pure naievity (spelling!) and immaturity that these parents possess to not be able to move forward and accept life as it is. I can only send them positive thoughts to help them find themselves.

Your little girl is such a DELIGHT! She is beautiful! Her photos made me smile and her movie made me cry with happiness for you and all of those she touches in her life! I cry when my little girl laughs like that too.. in fact I cry at just about everything now I have been lucky enough to share in the joy of motherhood!

Anonymous said...

Thank you for sharing this! I am touched by children and adults that were born with DS on a regular basis. Our agency is blessed to have a volunteer in one of my co-worker's classrooms and she has DS. She is amazing! Even better yet, the children view her as one of the teachers. Why? Because my co-worker treats her in a way she deserves, as teaching staff. And, of course, children are smarter than most adults! :)
Thanks again!!!!

Nicki H. said...

Wonderfully written and so many great points. I only hope that it gets back to the "parents" that are suing and they realize the wrong they are doing. Thank you for letting God speak through you on something like this and for being couragous enough to hit the "publish post" button.

Mrs. S. said...

Wow what a an amazing post! Your words hit so hard to the heart but by far was seeing the pictures that were so beautiful, they didn't need words. I came across this post on baby forum website that was detecting genetic testing. I am a soon to be mom who was asked recently by the doctor if I wanted DS testing. I asked what the point of the test was; you can't change anything, so why do it?. She said some people get it and some decide they can't handle it and get an abortion. I looked at her and said who the hell would do that. That is not even an option for me. I asked her if there was any other benefits and she said no except that it can help prepare a parent mentally before the birth. I told her I take the test. I would never end my baby's life just because it would be "too hard". There are many amazing parents like you who have gone through some really tough child/parenting times and all we see are the joys and the not poor me attitude.It's so nice to see a post like this. I think every child is a blessing you put it in perfect words.

Anonymous said...

So wonderfully put!!

Anonymous said...

I was having such a difficult time wrapping my head around this case. It was just so mind boggling and disgustingly repulsive that I couldn't even put words to my frustrations about it. You have given me those words I needed so beautifully and soothed my sickened core that felt ready to throw in the towel on humanity. Thank you so much for posting! No one could have said it better!

Jennifer Kilburn said...

Very well said!! Many blessings to you for having the courage to say what you did and for saying it so tactfully!
Blessings,
Jennifer
Jenniferrkilburn@gmail.com

Jennifer Kilburn said...

Very well said!! Many blessings to you for having the courage to say what you did and for saying it so tactfully!
Blessings,
Jennifer
Jenniferrkilburn@gmail.com

Stephanie said...

Excellent post!

yestoblessing said...

Thanks so much for writing this. Your daughter is absolutely beautiful!!! Her laugh brought tears of joy. I have 4 children and elected not to have the genetic testing done too because it would not have made a difference either way. Every child who is conceived is precious and it breaks my heart to think that anyone could so easily throw away a precious gift from God! Thanks again for posting this!

lovemy3 said...

Actually, Maegan....there are people waiting to adopt children with DS. Our local DS chapter handles adoption of children with DS. Last I heard, they have over 250 couples on the waiting list!

Momof4boys said...

Thank you for posting this...my son Jake is two years old and I found out with prenatal testing that he would have down syndrome...I did not do the futher testing so I could abort...I did it so that I would be preapared and educated when he arrived. He has brought more joy in his two short years than I have ever felt in my life. he is one of four boys and I can tell you....he has made us better parents, and his brothers will grow up to be better people because of him. God knows what He is doing. I truly hope He is able to speak to this couple and show them the truth of their actions.

Anna Walker said...

I have a son with learning/social disabilities. Raising him has not always been easy or ideal. We have skipped out on doing things because it would not have been a good time for or with him. But, he has taught me patience, compassion, LOTS OF LOVE, the list could go on. I can't imagine life without him.
Also I have a cousin who's DS testing came back positive and was offered the opportunity to abort. She declined and has a daughter that DOES NOT have Down's. Testing is not 100%, and it's sad to think how many folks may have aborted a "normal" child because testing told them it MIGHT have DS.
And your daughter's laugh was sunshine! How precious!

Anonymous said...

this post made my day if the child has the "wrong" # of cromisines you just have to get over it because if you say that a child should not have been born then you should not have been born so yah one of my 2nd cusins has ds and he can still read and enjoy life so i have experienced ds with family.

Elle said...

Thank you for writing this!! I was disgusted when I read the article a few weeks back, and amazed that 1) Someone would sue for something like this and 2) That they actually won the lawsuit. Interestingly, these people have received so many death threats over the publication of their story that they have requested extra police patrols by their home (my husband is a police officer in the city where they live). Hmm, I guess they should have thought about that before they went and did something so horrific.

Devon Davis said...

I am glad you published your post, you said what alot of us out in the world wanted to say to that couple. I would love to smack them upside the head with words and then offer to adopt there child. You have an amazing and beautiful little girl. I love her laugh, thank you for sharing your thoughts, words and most of all the amazing and beautiful little girl.

Devon Davis-Mossman wife to Kevin, Widow to Sgt David A. Davis 09-19-09 KIA and mommy to 6 amazing kids Audrianna 10, Tristan 9, Montana 7, Dylan 6, Liberty 3 and Jacob 15m my miracle boy born with Gastroschisis.

Jennifer said...

I love this so much! A story this terrible can only be countered with blatant, unreserved honesty. You have a beautiful perspective on this issue, and are a testimony to a life of joy with a child who has Down Syndrome! Thank you!

Anonymous said...

Spoken like a true parent!

Tiffany @ DontWastetheCrumbs said...

Thank you for taking the time to write this, and for having the courage to post. We should not be ashamed to be defensive of our children, especially since they are children of God.

So sad that this couple tried to blame a hospital for their child having Down's Syndrome. Instead of seeing the wonderful opportunity blessing they've been given, they choose to complain because it's not the blessing they wanted. How shameful and selfish.

Thank you again for such a wonderful response!

Rachel said...

Love it! Thank you!

Melissa said...

So glad you did publish this post, and that it's getting the attention it deserves!

Kelly said...

NICE! Those are the exact words for the feelings so many of us have had since reading about this.

If you haven't noticed yet, that extra chromosome is actually proven to strengthen mother's backbones and light a fire in their bellies. Enjoy it!
I have had to fire off a few strong letters to doctors and hospital administrators who were less than professional or respectful in dealing with me or my son. I love the strong lady I have become because of my son and I'd never want to go back to the person I was before.
So you write and post away. You are now an authority of looking at life differently and our stories make a difference in this world.

By the way, the only thing that would make this post better was knowing that those parents actually read it!

Anonymous said...

At least now from the lawsuit they'll have the money to take care of their special needs daughter.

Ohhhh how easy it is to bitch about people you don't know! But when it comes to actually help... I wonder how many people complaining have actually donated significant amount of money of supplies for special need children. How many of them would actually seriously consider adoption such a child, in the case that the family really cannot raise it themselves for one reason or another...

This article is emotionally manipulative and smacks of anti-choice rhetoric. I won't stand for it, even if I agree with some of the points made. Reality is, however, always much more complicated than what anti-choicers make it out to be.

Chuck said...

Gotta ditto comment 160!

Anonymous said...

This was e-mailed to me, so I don't know much background, but I recently read a marvelous book by Martha Beck, titled Expecting Adam. It is about her experience after being told her baby would be born with down syndrome. God bless you all!!!!!!!!!

Anonymous said...

In severe palmer hyperhidrosis which affects the soles
of feet, this surgical procedure is repeated for 4-6
hours of the population. I am glad this is often carried out
to be sure of a fan.
Also visit my web-site ; hyperhidrosis doctor Brokaw

«Oldest ‹Older   1 – 200 of 207   Newer› Newest»

Post a Comment

Thanks for reading about my Everything and Nothing. I would love to hear from you!

 
Minx Design
All Content © 2012
Everything and Nothing From Essex