...furthermore I realize that my baby bump has grown from the awkward is-she-just-putting-on-a-little-weight? stage to definitely-there-is-a-baby-growing-in-there stage....
sooo people are starting to notice...and make comments...
Yes, my babies will be eighteen months apart. No, I don't feel that I have to justify to the world why we are having our children so close in age.
Last weekend I was at a work function and another music teacher (not from my school) was asking me if I was moving out of state since he had noticed my job being posted as open.
I replied that no, we were actually having another baby and I was going to take some time off teaching to stay home with my kids.
He leaned in real close and said with a conspiratorial whisper "You understand what causes pregnancy, right?"
I gave him my best teacher death glare and he backed away with nervous laughter, not saying another word.
Seriously? How is that an appropriate question to ask a colleague?
I was at the hospital yesterday with Addison getting her bloodwork checked (everything is wonderfully normal-yay!), and just in the hour or so we were wandering about, I got so many comments...
"Oh wow, you're having another one?"
"You're going to have your hands full."
"You're already pregnant again? Is that baby yours?"
"Good luck with that." (said in a snide, judgmental voice)
and as I am barely 24 weeks pregnant and the belly growing is far from over, I dread the comments that I'm still to hear.
Why do people feel the need to immediately judge when they see a pregnant mom with another small baby? They don't know any of the background or history or the fact that a sibling close in age will be the very best thing for Addison's competitive driven development. (and even if it wasn't a planned thing...why is it their business to comment or judge?)
If this little boy is healthy and a good eater, I give him a year before he's caught up to Addison in size. Perhaps for a while they will resemble twins. (-: People don't judge a mom with twins, so maybe I just have a year or so left of the judgemental looks, and then the world will understand my family at first glance once again.
Oh well, I don't care. I just know that these comments are going to get very, very old...
I need to come up with witty responses so that one person will ask-be horrified-and then spread the word...no one will mess with us.
Q:"Oh wow, you're having another one?"
A: No, actually we're having triplets. Guess we didn't read the fine print on those fertility drugs...
Q:"You're going to have your hands full."
A:"Oh you have no idea, this is actually my twelfth child in twelve years. An even dozen was our goal."
Q:"You're already pregnant again? Is that baby yours?"
A: No, actually, I have a rare bloating condition that causes my stomach to weirdly inflate when I have too much salt. We tried that new Chinese restaraunt last night(shake head sadly)-their billboard that proclaims their food low in sodium is a complete lie.
Q:"Good luck with that." (said in a snide, judgmental voice)
A: With what? Losing the rest of this baby weight? Are you calling me fat?!? (hysterically lunge towards them while muffling a loud sob/scream)
Hmmm...promising start...I need to hone these answers a bit more. Let me know if you have a witty response suggestion...I still have 16 weeks worth of comments left to hear.