Inside my house: SpringSo after a good night's sleep and a lovely afternoon nap, I am feeling much more refreshed than I was when I wrote last night's whacky post. I'm sure you wondered what this pregnant lady was smoking...no fear- it's just that sleepiness and sickness make me a little crazy.
My plan was to get a lot of writing done today, but Addison has been extra clingy and then I accidentally fell asleep during one of her naps, and being snowed in means that I should be making food for my hardworking husband who will come home absolutely starving after "plowing" since 4 this morning. So, Addison and I put chili in the crockpot and made banana bread, picked up around the house and did laundry. By "Addison and I" I mean I did all of the work and she crawled over to my ankle and held on like a dead weight (yes, clingy)
She did her part in eating the banana bread. I gave her a piece and sat across from her on the floor eating my piece off of a plate. She polished off her piece and then grabbed and ate mine. I know I should teach her not to do that, but I love how well she is self feeding, I hesitate to discourage any of it.
Truth be told, I have lately been very worried about her cognitive development. Gross Motor skills and fine motor skills are delayed, but I see progress and I see her working hard on them. But as far as cognitive skills- I see no improvement whatsoever.
She won't wave. She won't clap on demand. We have been doing the "How big" game since we brought her home and she still won't lift her little arms in the air to show how big she is. She shows absolutely no interest in doing any of the signs that we teach her (right now we are focusing on "More"...she wants nothing to do with it) Also, she will babble all the day long with Mama, Dada, and Baba...but will not repeat any of them back to me if I ask for a syllable or if I ask what my name is or Aaron's.
I have noticed that if I say certain words, such as "more" or "cracker"- she will smile as if she knows what is coming, but that isn't a consistent response.
Of course this doesn't mean that I love her any less or am any less proud of her. I am just concerned and am looking for suggestions to break past the blank stare and find out if she actually understands me. I mean, waving is a pretty basic skill. Why won't she do it? Why won't she respond to anything that I ask her to do? The therapist said that we should do something thousands of times before she will catch on- pretty sure we have done "How big" tens of thousands of times and she still just stares at me blankly and firmly holds her arms to her side and even resists when I try to pull them up for her.
I will say, she loves to crawl up onto things- her target destination these days is mostly my lap. I'll sit cross legged on the floor to watch her play or play with her, and sooner or later she ends up half crawled onto my lap and kissing/biting my stomach...I use the opportunity to talk to her about her sibling and love that she is constantly crawling towards my stomach. I can't wait until the baby kicks hard enough so that she can feel it while her little face is pressed up against me. The first sign of sibling rivalry. (-:
When I found out that my baby was going to have Down syndrome- that's one of the biggest things that scared me- the label "mental retardation" and the low expectations for cognitive development. I work very hard with Addison and would love to just see some encouragement in this field. I just wish I knew what sort of connection I need to make for her to start putting some of these pieces together.
I hate it when therapists and such ask specific questions that are targeting where she is in this area and I almost want to lie about it sometimes, but I don't because I desperately need the help from them. Also, I observe friends with babies with Ds who have been waving and such for months and months and I wonder what I am doing wrong? As loving as the Ds community is, I think there is a fair amount of competition, even though no one will probably admit it. (-:
Also- no matter what, I still stick to my original assessment that she is smart because she is. I know that she will have her strengths and weaknesses such as any child- I just want to help her with these weaknesses so that she can communicate her many thoughts to the world. I mean, to listen to her babble, you would think that she was sharing deep dark baby secrets that she just can't hold in any longer. She just does it only on her own terms and won't respond to any of my questions. She is very stubborn, and I wonder if this is part of it, but have no way of knowing either way. I just want my almost 13 month old to wave. Is that too much to ask?