I understand that I am sensitive to labels on children, or anyone for that matter, more than I ever before have been in my life. I am trying to reign back being overly sensitive, but found myself unable to stay silent today.
This morning, when I read a friend's facebook status, she described a child that her son played with as "dim". When I asked her what she meant by that, she replied "The truth" and when I commented that I felt that this was offensive, she went out of her way to defend what she had said and accused me of jumping on the bandwagon of "social sensitivity" and that she was amused at "the effect that the truth had on those people who were supposed to be loyal to the truth." and to "stop pretending that they are not what they are to make their existence more acceptable".
I was extremely upset and offended and posted several arguments (very logically stated) to point out that she should NOT have said that. She defended herself hardcore, not even attempting to acknowledge that perhaps she was in the wrong by describing him as such. When she finally commented that she was done, but that I was free to continue commenting, I gave up and de-friended her.
Am I crazy to be this upset? I don't care what point you're trying to make, why single out one characteristic about a child that denotes a certain intelligence level? To me, this is not OK. I don't want someone to think about my child in terms of intelligence level. I want them to look at her characteristics as good or bad such as they would look at any other child. So, we're just going to say the truth? Does that mean you go around telling people to their faces when you think that they are ugly? No, because no matter what the truth may be or no matter what your opinion is, this world still calls for a certain amount of tact. I don't feel that referring to a child as "dim" is tactful or kind by any stretch of the imagination.
I think I am even more upset because when I tried to point out to her how offensive this was to me, she refused to back down or apologize for her statement. Who does that? Even if you feel that you are 100% right, if someone is so obviously offended, would it be so hard to just make a statement apologizing for the offense?
Please tell me that I am not alone in this. I am still a bit shaken from this entire encounter, and find myself wondering if I should have just kept my mouth shut when someone was obviously so bullheaded and responds so badly to any opinion different than their own. What would you have done? Is it better to just feel hurt silently or to speak up and then end up being more upset when you see the true ignorance and uncaring nature of "friends"?